When It's Not A Block | Maybe It's Just A Bit Too Complicated


I think it’s time to talk about something I see all the time & and I say this with total compassion:


  1. You’re not blocked.
  2. You’re not broken.
  3. And the universe definitely didn’t skip your turn.


You might just be overcomplicating something that’s actually pretty simple.


I get it, I really do. We’ve all been there.


The real talk (with care): A lot of people think they’re stuck because they’re not doing enough, or they’re “missing” the secret ingredient.


But often, the thing that’s actually getting in the way? It’s not a block. It’s just too much buildup around a decision that deep down, you already know you want to make.


After working with enough people that I’ve lost count...from practical-minded professionals to deep feelers and overthinkers...I can tell you this:


Most “blocks” are actually just emotional static. We pile on pressure. We overanalyze. We wait for a perfect moment. And suddenly something small feels massive.


Here's a gentle reframe: You’re not stuck. You’re sorting through the noise. And that’s okay. But let’s also be honest with ourselves: Sometimes we’re waiting for a magical sign, when what we really need… is to trust what we already know


Ask yourself... If I already had what I wanted


  • How would I handle this moment?
  • What would feel obvious?
  • What would feel done?
  • What wouldn’t need explaining?



The answer is usually simpler than we think.


What this doesn’t mean:


  • You need to hustle harder
  • You’re doing it wrong
  • You have to “get it together” before you’re allowed to move


This is not about shame or force, let me makte this clear. It's about clarity & relief.


What it does mean:


✔ Taking a small, grounded step, even if it’s not glamorous

✔ Letting your next move be clean, not perfect

✔ Dropping the idea that alignment always has to feel magical or dramatic

✔ Allowing simple to be enough

✔ Trusting that your inner wisdom actually counts


When Is a Block a Real Block?


Let’s not sugarcoat it but I don't want to dramatize it either. A real block isn’t just “I don’t feel like it today.” It’s not momentary doubt or procrastination dressed up as a spiritual emergency. A real block shows up when something internal is actively interfering with your ability to follow through. It's there even when you know what to do, why you want it, and what it would change for you.



Here’s how you know you’re facing a real block (not just a mind spiral or a case of overthinking):


  • It’s repetitive, even when you apply effort or intention. You’ve read the books, done the journaling, taken some aligned action and the same internal snag keeps coming back like it’s on a loop.


  • It triggers disproportionate emotion for the situation. You go to post, apply, ask, commit but instead of a little nerves, you’re suddenly in full-body panic or emotional shutdown. That’s more than mindset. That’s likely something deeper. It’s tied to an identity pattern, not just a circumstance.


  • You notice the “stuckness” doesn’t just happen in one area. It echoes. Like maybe in your relationships, your finances, or your visibility. The details change, but the internal limit stays the same.


  • You’ve created loops of almost, but not quite. You get close. You start. You even build momentum. But the moment things get real or possible... you stall. Again. And again. And again.


  • You avoid, rationalize, or distract when faced with the next aligned step. And you know it’s the step. You don’t need another sign. But the thought of actually doing it? Feels like hitting a wall.


So what do you do with that? You don’t push through with “positive vibes.” You don’t shame yourself for not being “high-vibe enough.” You get curious. You go in, not out. You look at the emotional contract you’re still holding with an old version of you — and you lovingly start renegotiating it.




Here’s how I’ve helped clients move through real blocks:


  1. Identifying the core fear behind the hesitation (it’s rarely the goal — it’s what the goal will require of them)
  2. Getting clear on the identity shift that hasn’t fully clicked yet
  3. Creating micro-movements that allow for success without self-betrayal
  4. Practicing new self-permission in the small moments (because identity changes in the everyday, not just the epiphanies)



Final truth:


A real block doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you. It means something’s ready to be rewired, not shamed, not bypassed, not spiritually duct-taped over.


You can work with it instead of against it.

And you can certainly move forward without bulldozing your nervous system. Finally, you can absolutely dissolve the block & not with hustle, but with clarity and care.


When you're ready to do that work, the path opens up. Not always overnight, but in real, lasting ways. And you? You’re more than capable of doing that. Block or no block.


A reminder for the road:


You don’t need to overprocess every possibility.

You don’t need to wait for a lightning bolt.

You can trust what feels grounded, real, and true.

You can trust yourself, right now, as you are.


Make it be clear. Let it be kind. Let it be the decision you already know is yours to make because you’ve got this. And if no one’s told you today:


I’m here, cheering you on every step of the way!